2006-03-31 to JIM THOMSON

2006-03-31 to JIM THOMSON


Jim.

A couple of things.


1. I will attempt to attach the Honda sheet that I am using for my references.


2. I received the credit report for Calif. Sure enough it has "Mr. Gumball" and other incorrect information on it. Do you remember the sheet that I sent to you about my credit reports?


3. What I was giving you, over the phone was a "Clinical Diagnosis" of the interview process at KTC. Treat it as a report, not an incrimination of you or your methods.


4. It seems to me that every time I said something, that you came back with a "reflex" reply.
Wow, that is NOT the way to do business!
Just accept the statement and say "thank you".
Make a note, if necessary that this candidate need more coaching in...


5. You kept on saying that "I told you this" or "I went over this with you"...
Jim, do you remember me telling you about how I receive information.
"I receive information from READING a memo or an e-mail."
Talking to me, telling me something has NO effect.
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As a business man, a recruiter, a seller of services, a person deeply involved in human communications, you need to:
A. Recognize HOW other people get their information (in to their brains, into their awareness).
B. Act upon that recognition, (that you have perceived) and "spoon feed" people / candidates / customers information in the "method they need.




MOST SERIOUS ITEM. PAY ATTENTION ON THE PHONE!

6. About your telephone manners.
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As a communicator you need to sit down and examine what you are doing.
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I am an older person and I can tell when someone is not paying attention.
When someone is not giving me their FULL time and attention.
When someone is multi-tasking, while on the phone.
When someone, on the phone, is listening to someone else.
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Jim, it is not that you are talking to me and THEN making notes,
it was that during the ENTIRE conversation, I NEVER had your attention.
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(The "reflex reply" that you can make is that you did pay attention.
My "reflex reply" is that my perception is that I NEVER had your full attention).
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A phone conversation with people / candidates / customers is not the time for multi-tasking.
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I have seen good communicators, actually stand-up, when talking on the phone.
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If you have to talk to someone else in the room, let the person on the phone know what is going on, ask their permission to talk, cover up the receiver, and come back to the conversation as soon as possible.
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If there is noise or something else going on, find ways to ignore it. Wear earphones if necessary.
Stand and face the wall, if necessary.

Pat

2006-03-30 report on the trip

2006-03-30 report on the trip

Patrick is alive, but exhausted.

My apologizes for not writing, uhhh e-mailing sooner.

I was so exhausted!

On Wednesday, I arrived home at 2:30 AM in the morning and it took me an hour to go to sleep.

I was really exhausted and my sleep pattern was broken. I think that it will take several days to get fully back into a normal pattern.

I slept most of the rest of Wednesday day and got up for a few hours in the after-noon and early evening. A cat nap and them up late, late Wednesday night and into the early morning hours and then sleep until Thursday afternoon. When I was up, I was mostly somewhere between sleep walking and just moping around the house. This was definitely not the correct opportunity for higher brain functions like: talking to human beings or trying to remember how the telephone with all those numbers-on-it work.

The Interviews went well and I was a good performer. In the current speech, "I was pumped."

(Maybe this is why I am so exhausted. I was on a an "Adrenaline" high during parts of the interview and the flight home, maybe when it was finally over, I was in an adrenaline low-state or "crashing" from lack of adrenaline)

I was treated very nice, interviewed by a lot of people and as usual, in a week or two they will let me know.

I quickly established a good repore with the Audit Director, but after lunch she brought in a highly skilled contractor, who asked be a series of rapid fire questions. I knew what was happening and I tried to break the "interrogation" with my own questions, and to take control, but was generally unsuccessful. I tried to bring the answers back to their situation, but no luck.

For most of the Interviews, I would give my self an "A", but for the "interrogation" part I only earned a "B" at best.


As for the flight's back I am having problems with the words. Of course, their travel service made all the arrangements and did it the cheapest possible way. My time and inconvenience was not a factor at all. What would normally be a 2 or 3 hour direct flight became an endurance test. I left LAX at 6 pm and flew to PHOENIX, there the next flight was delayed for over an hour and we did not get into DFW until very late. I was very worried that I would miss the last "Super Shuttle" bus that evening/morning and that I would have to wait around the airport till the buses started again at 4 or 5 in the morning. (Did I mention that stress, especially repeated stress leads to exhaustion?) Anyway, I still had my Irish luck and got the last Super-Shuttle bus and got home about 2:30 in the morning. The rest of Wednesday and most of Thursday is a blur. Maybe it was a combination of stress and the damn medications that I am taking.

Anyway, to save a few dollars, two days (Wednesday and Thursday) were totally unproductive. If I were an employee, this is what is known as false "economy". My two days of work is far more important than a few dollars. For argument sake, say that I earn $ 25.00 an hour. (16 hours x $ 25.00 = $ 400.00). You have a lost of $ 400.00 vs. a few dollars in "saved" air fare.





I will write more soon.


Pat

The "interrogator"

The "interrogator" was more like a robot on a mission from God.

Not tough or mean, just insistent. I would have preferred someone mean.

It was a long series of rapid fire questions: to find and explore my technical or SOX weaknesses.

As hard, as I tried to steer the meeting away the area he asked about, the more precise and cutting the questions were.

The more I appealed to other people in the room, the more he took over and asked more questions.

It was done with the back-ground of a quick, quick quick tempo

I also tried to break this time-tempo, but it did not work.

The most frustrating thing was that I knew what he was doing to me and couldn't get out of it.

The usual ways of dealing with an "interrogator" just did not work. Or maybe I was out of practice.

Also I was caught by surprise. This was done after lunch (steak and lobster at the "Black Angus" restaurant and I may have let my guard down.

I was waiting for an interview with the "Japanese" co-coordinator and not with an "interrogator".

I was preparing myself for the Japanese co-coordinator.

And in walked the audit director, the Japanese co-coordinator and the "interrogator". They all came into the room at the same time and stayed there. So I couldn't even be rude to the "interrogator".

It turned out that the meeting with the Japanese co-coordinator was done after the "interrogation".




Pat

03-18-2006 about me - Employment Search

03-18-2006 about me - Employment Search


1. My main occupation is finding employment.

Right now this is priority number one.

Mostly, the un-employment and money worries affect my wife about 400% worst than it does me. I wish I could get a job, just so that she will have some relief.


2. Nothing is happening.

But some days, I am so sick of it, I get up from the computer and either lay down in bed or vacuum the house again and again.

I seem to be in a limbo or purgatory.

Nothing is happening.

I am active and putting forth a good effort on the job search, but nothing appears to be happening.

I have very little to report.

I think that this "nothing to report" is hampering my letter writing to my friends in Calif.

Every so often. Every so often I get a job interview. The recruiters call me. I send out my resume to many recruiters on the web/net. and nothing happens.

Some of the recruiters are so very arrogant. They are all reading from the same dumb "play-book" and want me drop everything and rush right over to their office.


3. I have a lot of supporting documents.

Boy! Do I have a lot of supporting documents for the job search! If any of "you guys" want to see any of them, please let me know. pomahony2@hotmail.com







End of "About me - Employment Search."

03-18-2006 About me - physically

03-18-2006 About me - physically


1. Weight and FAT.

I am way over weight and fat.

For deep psychological reasons I say that this is NOT my fault (it really is).
Officially, it is NOT my fault, but due to my "current" circumstances.

Under "other" circumstances, I would be a lot thinner.

I would like to be in better physical shape.


2. Major Diseases and Impairments

Currently, I do not have any long lasting Major diseases or impairments, for which I am really grateful.



3. My foot.

In January, '06 I collapsed and broke a bone in my right foot. It is healing up just fine. I can wear regular shoes for a short time, but I prefer a flat sole "boot" the doctors gave me. I also use the cane when I go walking for long stretches (time/distance). The foot twinges now and then, but it is well inside the "acceptable" range of ailments.


4. Skin Problems.

As always, I have skill problems, eruptions and bad reactions to sunlight.

Again, this is under control, I have medicine, but this is not cured.

But it is in the "acceptable" range of ailments.

I am grateful that these minor problems are all that is bothering me.



end of "About me physically."

03-19-2006 Dr Favroth

03-19-2006 Dr Favroth


Dr. Daphne Favroth, MD
Clinic for Family health and Wellness
551 N. Plano Road
Richardson, TX 75081
(972) 669-8400

Patrick John O'Mahony
1506 Versailles Drive
Richardson, TX 75081
(972) 690-3611
pomahony2@hotmail.com
blog: http://big-pat-omahony.blogspot.com



Dear DR. Favroth,

I was looking at my mail and guess what I found?

Your post card and picture!

It was good to see you.

I had lost touch with you and wanted to stay in touch.

I heard recently that:

"Good friends are/is God's way of apologizing for the relatives and in-laws that he gave you."

I hope you remember me from the Parkland/Garland COPC?

We used to have such good conversations.

Did you ever get to meet the lady from CCCCD Plano college / school who I thought looked like you.

I am currently un-employed with no medical insurance (getting medical services through the VA) so I can't visit you (professionally) in your new office.

What a shame, I thought (still think) that you are a great doctor and caring individual.
I felt very safe in your medical care.

I am not sure where my wife goes for medical care. She never tells nothing!

(Oh Oh! Hold the presses. The answer is:
Duane Hinshaw, D.O. and "Mary" at 2201 Forest Land in Garland)
Anyway, I wanted to say hello to you, tell you that I remember you and think kindly of how nice you treated me.

See you later


Pat

end of blog

03-13-2006 NEWSLETTER



NEWS LETTER


Hello, I am Pat O'Mahony and this is my newsletter.

Over the past few months I have promised to write to so many people I can not possibly write individually to each one. So I am taking the cowards way out and writing a general newsletter.

Of course, I know that when you try to do a "one size fits all" attempt, it really fits none, but at least this will give me a starting point to go forward.

If some of this information does not interest you, just ignore that section, which is probably meant for someone else. If any of this is a surprise to you, please let me know.

Since this is my first deep newsletter I am going to go to extremes with it.
Maybe I should start a blog ???? Hmmmmmm.

(I started this newsletter on 3-13-2006 and today is 3-18-2006 and the idea of a blog s appleals to me more and more. Stay tuned!)



1. Who am I?
2. My family.
3. What am I doing.
1. Who am I?

1A. I am Pat O'Mahony. 61 years old, a grandfather.

1B. Psychologically.
I am about 60% happy with the person I have turned out to be.
There are a lot of things that I wish I had done differently when I was younger.
There are things about me and within me that I would like to change (not a make over, but more of a change of course, like a ship)

1C. Success and money-wise.
I would give myself a grade of "F".
As Kiran Kocher says, I should be more of a mawabe.
I am broke and looking for employment.

1D. Physically.
I am way over weight and fat.
For deep psychological reasons I say that this is not my fault (it really is) but due to my circumstances. Under "other" circumstances, I would be a lot thinner.

I would like to be in better physical shape.

Currently, I do not have any long lasting diseases or impairments, for which I am really grateful.
(Thank You GOD!)

In January, '06 I collapsed and broke a bone in my right foot. It is healing up just fine. I can wear regular shoes for a short time, but I prefer a flat sole "boot" the doctors gave me. I also use the cane when I go walking for long stretches (time/distance). The foot twinges now and then, but it is well inside the "acceptable" range of ailments.

As always, I have skiN problems, eruptions and bad reactions to sunlight. Again, this is under control, I have medicine, but not cured, but also in the "acceptable" range of ailments.

I am grateful that these minor problems are all that is bothering me.

1E. Family wise.
I am about 50% happy with the results.
Hey, we made it this far, which is a lot more than many people. Maybe our ideas, of what is a "happy family" are skewed in the direction of early TV shows. Maybe people aren't meant to be happy with families.


2. My family.

By the words, "MY family" it usually sounds like ownership.
To me, more and more the term "my family" is coming to mean inclusion.


I have a wonderful wife, 3 sons and 3 grandchildren


Son # 1 Sean O'Mahony
Sean is married to a very lovely lady and together they have 2 wonderful daughters.
I even got to hold the youngest, the other day.
I am just in awe of these two little girls.
It is amazing, that something this precious and good, is in "my family".

Sean lives in Plano, TX, has a house and appears to be successful.
I am not all together sure of exactly all what he is currently does.
I know he is in Real Estate and ....


Son # 2. Pat O'Mahony (jr.)
We call him "little pat" He is bigger and stronger than me now.
The little was when he was five years old.
He is the father of Chaz, an eight year old angle or monster, depending upon which day it is.
Pat's wife and mother of Chaz left us a long, long time ago.
Although I have been told that I did every thing possible to help her, I often wonder if maybe...
The mother also had 2 other children, so Chaz has a half-brother and half sister.
Chan's other Grandmother (me-me(Jo Ann)) is great.
She gives Chaz a lot of love.
She lets him meet and play with his half-brother and half-sister.
I do not know what to make of all the relationships that Chaz has.
He (Chaz) seems to take it in stride.

Son # 3. Neal O'Mahony
Neal is living in Austin, with friends and seems to be doing very well.


Wife # 1. Marilyn
Marilyn is a Cherokee Indian (Native American).
Once you know that and operate from that principle, every thing makes sense.
We have been married over 40 years (40th = Feb 05, 2006)
I love and respect her very much.
She stuck with me, when every thing else turned against me, so....
Right now she is moody and very worried about the lack of money and the fact that I do not have a job. It worries her very much. She carries the worry, a lot heaver than I do. It is her nature.
The worry makes her moody and often times withdrawn.
She doesn't smile or laugh the way she used to. I miss that.
The worry also interferes with her health, she is now way, way over weight, and fat, often very sick and now she is a "diabetic" with daily insulin shots.
The worry makes her eat more, sit down more, worry more, and her health goes down. It is a very depressing downward spiral, which I can not bring her out of. Being an Indian, she keeps much of the worry and frustration to her self, which increases the downward spiral.



3. What am I doing.


3A. My main occupation is finding employment.
Right now this is priority number one. But some days, I am so sick of it, I get up from the computer and either lay down in bed or vacuum the house again.

3B. I also do homework with my Grandson "Chaz"/

3C. I am "still" trying to memorize the periodic table of the elements. This is really way down on my list comparred to finding emplloyment.

3-18-2006 end of first blog